One of the most common complaints women have about men is that we don't communicate with them very well.

We don't share the details and emotions associated with our experiences and tend to have a "just the facts ma'am" approach to communication.

Yet, because of our egos and our desire to win at everything we do, we assume we are good communicators, but this same problem plagues almost all relationships at one point or another.

This dysfunction leads to contempt, malice and eventually the death of the relationship. Seems absurd that all you have to do to prevent it is learn to communicate with your woman.

Here are some tips to get you back on track.

1. Make time to talk with her. Just as you make time to watch tv, to eat, to go out, you need to make the time to sit with her and talk. This is called making an effort and even if you only discuss the very basics -- work, friends, what you're doing on the weekend, it will be noted.

2. Be an active listener. Pay attention to what she says and acknowledge what she says without judgement. This requires patience and concentration, which is again something we guys are not known for. Make the effort to try.

3. Let her know you care. If she had a bad day at work, she needs to know you are on her side. Telling her she should just quit her job if she doesn't like it is not the answer. Think about how you would feel in a similar situation and even relate a similar experience if you've had one. She has to know you care about her.

4. Emotions and details. When talking with her, put your ego aside and use emotions and details when describing an experience. She will certainly relate to what you say having felt the same thing herself and by offering the seemingly pointless details, she will know you care about her.

As you may already know, learning how to communicate with women is like learning a foreign language. But everything was foreign once. The key to learning anything is to have a passion for the subject and then practise as much as possible -- sounds a lot like golf actually.

But just as you can learn more about golf, you can learn more about women. Understanding her better will bring you more of what you want and you would do it for her -- as the commercials say -- because she's worth it.